For atorturedsoul: Will My Rages Destroy My Marriage?

Atorturedsoul asked the Tarot Queen: I have some personal issues going on (home and family life) that has caused me to start having episodes of outright rage. (I'm bipolar, of course.) It causes a great deal of stress in my marriage. Is my husband (and me) going to stick it out over the long haul or eventually give up?

Questions about relationships are always difficult. There are so many factors involved and the cause of the underlying issues isn't always clear. People living with individuals with severe mental illnesses are often unsung heroes with a store of patience that's often taken for granted. It ain't easy (I know from experience) and sometimes the pain isn't worth the effort (again experience), but, when the individual struggling with the issues is so precious, when the struggles and anguish are leavened with love and healing, the most surprising individuals can stick with it. And, again, that's experience.

I don't know you or your husband, but I can understand worrying. However, if you are doubting if you're willing to stick it, seriously, you don't need cards. If, instead, he matters to you enough that this is a serious fear of yours (perhaps one that contributes to your uncertainty and therefore rages), perhaps we can find some insight that will give you guidance. But these are just cards, as I've cautioned before and, while I can hope they will give you guidance, your life will still be what you make it.

I'm going to start by asking about the health of your marriage. If the cards foresee challenges, I'll ask for more data, but we'll start with just the three cards.

Past. Ace of Wands (reversed). Not a propitious card for the past. In the reversed position, this card speaks of false starts and thwarted goals, emptiness and decadence, chaos and selfishness. Clearly, there were a number of issues in the past (can't tell yet if it is you, him, or your relationship here).

Present. Queen of Pentacles/Coins (reversed). This card, in the reversed position, is reminscent to me of many of the characteristics of some mental disorders: moody, suspicious, critical, vindictive, proud, capricious, unbalanced, difficult to deal with. Oh, and get this, someone reads your palm. Why do I think it's cool the card "predicted" your reading. OK, you are ill (but you know it) and it is challenging. But what does that mean for the future?

Future. Pentacles/Coins IV. This is a card that generally deals with wealth, but we can work it to think about your relationship's health. It's a good card for anyone's future: law and order, success, promotion/advancement, time to be generous to others. And, if money worries were part of our issue, this card is definitely propitious.

At first glance, given the nice card at the end, I'd be tempted to say it looks like you'll make it together, ending stronger than you started. However, there is a possible streak of selfishness associated with the Pentacles/Coins IV, so it might be worth my while to ask for confirmation that we're talking about your relationship and not your marriage.

I pulled the Pentacles/Coins X (reversed), which again argues material wealth but a period of stagnation. I don't see how that helps me.

So, I pulled also Wands IV. I gotta say it seems to reinforce my original assessment. Harmony, peace, still with the material wealth, rest after strife, romance, stability and fulfillment after strife.

Sounds like he's a keeper - and you are too. Hope that helps.

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