For Momof1: More Kids?

>> Monday, September 28, 2009

Momof1 asked: I'd like one more baby, but my partner isn't very keen. Are chances favorable (money)? If so how soon?

Interesting question. Let's see what the cards say.

Past - Knight of Swords (reversed) - In the reversed position, this card speaks of obstacles and challenges. Since you mention money, it would seem this has been an obstacle.

Present - King of Swords (reversed) - Again, obstacles, but there's obstinancy, perversity and indecisiveness. Clearly, as you mentioned, there's some reticence, some concern, some doubt about having more children.

Future - VII The Chariot - Well, this is an interesting card. It's a card that includes obstacles, but there's a potential for success (after effort). However, the card speaks of male bellicosity and female passivity. I'd read this card as it being dependent on you to convey how important this is to you, if it's important, and note that his objections and concerns are probably justified. The challenges that have hampered to date will still be around. But, the card argues they can be overcome if it's something you're willing to commit to.

I have to pause a moment, though, and say that I can't, no matter what the cards say, recommend pushing an issue about children with a reluctant spouse. Children are a huge responsibility and a life-long commitment. I truly believe that both parents should be involved in the decision or it will be hard on everyone involved, including the child. If the reticence is related to the circumstances, that's one thing. If the reticence is real, I would think very carefully before trying to force the issue.

I will go ahead and pull another two cards for clarification.

IV The Emperor (reversed) - this card talks about stress in the relationship, power struggles, strife, potentially even divorce. This is a subject that can put a lot of stress on a marriage.

XI Strength (reversed) - more stress in the relationship, tyranny, pressure, miscommunication.

OK, here's what I think the cards are saying. You have a potential to get another child, but there's also a strong possibility that it will take a severe toll on your marriage. Only you can decide what's most important to you, but I would advise persuasion rather than trickery or pushing if your relationship is important to you.

Sorry I couldn't give you a happier reading.


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